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for those who have tried to forgive again and again..

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It happens to everyone. Someone very close to you would do something that hurts you really bad. It’s generally the relation between you that you expect to work in a certain way, however it doesn’t work out exactly how you planned.

If everything worked as planned, life wouldn’t be what it is and wouldn’t be what it’s meant to be.

Not forgiving is carrying the feeling of hurt with you. So forgiving is actually good for yourself more than the other person.

Many a times, I think I have forgiven people, but after a few day, some times even weeks, months or years, the feeling come back. Once again that spike of anger or resentment can be felt intensely in my heart. I wonder when I had forgiven the person why does it come back.

I had to google a few things to before I felt better about my forgiveness. So here are the points that I think one if clear about, the forgiveness works better and makes you happier:

What does it mean to forgive?

Definition according to google:

Forgive

verb

1. stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake.
2. no longer feel angry about or wish to punish (an offence, flaw, or mistake).

Forgive even if they are not sorry?

The definition doesn’t talk about whether the other person if apologetic about their deed or not. The forgiveness is all in your hands and mind.

So yes, forgive them even if they are not sorry.

Give them another chance after forgiving?

The definition doesn’t talk about it either. All you need to do is stop feeling angry or resentful. It doesn’t say anything about what happens to your relationship. So, it’s up to you, how you take things forward.

I think that the expectations you had from the relationship needn’t necessarily be same anymore.

How this knowledge helped me..

Previously I used to think I have forgiven someone. Then after some time I would start thinking again. Why the hell did they do this to me. Why did they not make the other choice when things were so clear to them. Why they betrayed me or pretended being so close. And all these thoughts made me angry.

Now I know that I can still keep thinking about all these questions even more rationally and make my future decisions biases using the past information. All I have to do is not be angry. So this knowledge just keeps me away from anger.

So, What happens when you forgive someone?

You become free.

Free from anger, free to do whatever you want. You are free to make new opinions based on your situation. You are free to leave the person or give them another chance. Free from all the mental barriers and to use your intelligence as you wish.

It’s all about the mindset. Why not grab the freedom thats just a blink away.

Hope this sweeps away the negative fire from you.
Thanks for reading!
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